Healing a Broken Heart

Healing a broken heart takes time and the right resources

Sometimes, life brings events or relationships which are so painful, we think there's just no bearing them. We may become so depressed and unhappy, we can no longer muster up an appetite, for food or for that matter, anything else.

This sort of sadness causes us to lose our zest for life, not caring one way or another, about our work or any of the everyday experiences we used to enjoy. If you feel that this describes your condition, please take a couple of minutes to read on and see what you can do to regain some enthusiasm, and eventually feel good again.

Healing a broken heart takes time. There is a period of time which follows a tragic or painful event, in which you may be experiencing shock. You might never have imagined you could feel this way. It's natural that you will feel completely disoriented and unable to cope.  These feelings and reactions are normal and unfortunately, must run their course. The best thing you can do for yourself is to gather your close friends and family members around you.

The people who love you and care about you will support you. When you're feeling especially low, call your best friend. Call your Mom. Invite a friend to come over. Real friends care. You may discover just one new perspective over a two hour telephone visit. Do take one day at a time. That's about all you can do. It's enough for now.

When you're in this recovery stage, small indulgences can be helpful in assuaging some of your pain. If you're usually a hard worker, but just can't seem to pull yourself together today, it's OK. Don't beat yourself up. Part of overcoming sorrow means that you'll sometimes feel like crying. Go ahead. No one can deny that healing a broken heart can be a long, painful process. At the same time, try not to dwell on memories excessively.

There are times when you'll want to be alone. If you find there are days in a row when you don't want to see or speak with anyone, this is counterproductive. If you have a trusted physician, give them a call. You may be surprised to learn that they can actually provide some advice you can use. Both doctors and counselors know that healing a broken heart is not easy and can cause great emotional stress. Accept help. Prayer can be very comforting.

You may not believe it now, but there'll come a time when you will want to set a goal for the future. This may be just one small project. Write a poem. Read a book. Make a gift. Be around kids.

Know that the process of healing a broken heart may never be perfect. There may always be a glimmer of sadness in your heart. It may take a while, but happiness will come again.